Contents

Introduction

In this book, I will tell the reader about several important points in the psychology of women that I discovered when I worked with them, communicated with them, studied them, and helped them solve various problems. Here mostly my own experience is described, I did not take other people’s knowledge from other sources, I did not rewrite them in my own words. I don’t see any interest in repeating other people’s thoughts and discoveries, especially without checking and thinking about them myself. Therefore, the book was written largely on the basis of my personal and professional experience. And this experience consists of years of studying women, through deep communication with them and solving their psychological problems.

I will mainly talk in this book about problematic moments in women’s psychology and in general about problems with them, because people, whether men or women, are interested in this topic, mostly just such problematic moments they want to understand. And my work with people comes down mainly to solving problems, that is, to such things that usually cause unpleasant feelings. That’s why I write about these things in this book, about problems, about negative moments, about what causes discomfort and pain to people. But the good, good things that you need to know about will also be described here. There is something good and something bad in all people. And even if these things are conditional and relative, we will still pay more attention to those of them that most strongly affect our lives and our condition. Here, I will tell you what I have encountered most often, what I have best delved into.

I want the reader to understand that my attitude towards women is normal, I can say even, in fact, the same as for men, if we talk about evaluating internal qualities. And despite the negative features of the female nature that I will write about, I do not generalize women in any way and do not consider them bad, evil, and so on, which can sometimes be found in misogynistic works. A person is a person, there is enough in him. And although women and men differ from each other in some aspects, from a psychological point of view, first of all, it is all the same, both of them are people with the inherent advantages and disadvantages of our species. So if I say something unpleasant about women here, it doesn’t mean that men don’t have the same or other negative qualities. We can say that everyone is good, if we divide people into men and women. And so, of course, a lot depends on the specific person. And from specific situations. If any of my thoughts about women are harsh, don’t think that this is the case of all of them. Or that women are generally worse than men. Of course, this is not the case. This is generally not serious, such over-communication to do. And all these wars of the sexes-this, in my opinion, is some kind of stupidity, childishness. I don’t take it seriously. And here I just write about the problems and my understanding of them that I have encountered and that relate to women.

Women are no mystery to me. More precisely, they are no more mysterious than men. Gender does not determine the complexity of a person’s behavior, it is determined by what is in his head. And there can be a lot of interesting things. And at the same time, in terms of the composition of thoughts and their influence on human behavior, people can be very much the same. If one woman behaves in a certain way in a certain situation, then many others may behave in the same way. Therefore, if many things in the behavior of different people coincide, then they act according to the same natural rules. If you understand one woman who behaves in a certain way, you will also understand another who shows similar behavior.

Some aspects of women’s psychology that I will talk about may be interesting not only for men who want to better understand some women, but also for women themselves. I have seen many times that women often do not understand themselves, they do not understand their desires, motives, can not explain the laws of their behavior, the logic underlying their actions. Because they didn’t go into these things. And I delved into it. So I know more about it. I studied all these patterns, because I had to study them in order to solve the problems of women and with women. And now I will tell the reader about what I think is important to know.

Whatever and no matter how well each of you already know about women’s psychology, this book will surely complement your knowledge. And maybe even refute some of them. You will gain a better understanding of women if you are a man, or a better understanding of yourself if you are a woman, by reading this book. Well, now, let’s move on to them, to knowledge.

Mercantile women

Let’s talk about female commercialism. This is a common phenomenon in our lives, so it is important to know everything about it. When it comes to mercantile women, it usually causes negative emotions in many men, because they see commercialism as something bad that they do not like to face in life. Many men have suffered enough with women who have this quality, so they know what to expect from such women. Sometimes no beauty helps a woman to interest a peasant if he sees how mercantile she is. Because men, when mentioning such women, get the image of a kind of cold, in some cases aggressive and eternally dissatisfied female person, for whom it does not matter at all what a man is, the main thing is that you can take from him. And most importantly, such a woman is always just a little, she never gets enough. Therefore, such a quality as commercialism scares men, and it also angers and disgusts them.

But the most interesting thing is that commercialism is common to all women, without exception, and not only women. Another thing is how this quality manifests itself in them. It may be primitive, or it may be mature. So let’s think with you about what commercialism is. This is an excessive desire for material gain, prudence, including petty ones, and generally speaking, it is putting material goods at the forefront. You can also say that this is a fixation on material benefits, on material goods, to the detriment of everything else. So, such a state of mind in a person occurs from childhood, this applies to both men and women. We all initially know how to appreciate material goods, we don’t even need to be taught this. After all, we are talking about resources, and they play a very important role in life for us. They give us life. Therefore, from birth we are all mercantile. We begin to appreciate people and their qualities later, as we develop, and at the beginning we value what we can touch, taste, decorate ourselves with, what we can appropriate, what we can possess as our own property. We want to own things in order to feel safe. Because the possession of material values increases our chances of survival. This is a primitive approach to life, it is necessary for us at the initial stage of development, when a person needs the most basic resources.

In our time, of course, everything is a little perverted, we deceive our instincts when we strive for completely unnecessary things, for resources on which our lives do not depend. For example, a child may very much want to get a new toy that he saw in the store, considering it valuable for himself simply because it does not belong to him. He doesn’t need this thing at all, either for survival or for development. It only symbolizes value, but it is not a value. But once upon a time, very, very long ago, in its place could be an extra piece of food, giving the necessary calories for life, or an animal skin, which can be warmed in a cold cave. And in such conditions, it is vital to have such resources. Our instincts, they are not meant for civilization, but for the wild. In civilization, an important role is played by intelligence, which allows you to distinguish really valuable things from the illusion of value. And in the wild, you need to be able to listen first to your body in order to survive, and only then think. Therefore, nature has made man so prudent that he can get everything he needs for life.

So we are all focused on material goods at the beginning of our life’s journey. But then a person, as his perception of the world becomes more complex, thanks to the development of the brain, begins to realize other values besides material ones. For example, the value of a person, the same parents, thanks to whom he is also financially secure, protected, who take care of him, because strangers do not need him as much as their parents. In an even more developed state, which often correlates with age, a person begins to appreciate intangible values, that is, spiritual ones, such as: love, respect, decency, honesty, loyalty, reliability, responsibility, intelligence and other similar things. These are values that cannot be touched, tasted, smelled, or shaped in their own right, but they do exist, and they are also very valuable. Financial well-being may also depend on them. For example, if you are smart enough, will you be lost in this life, will you not be able to take care of yourself, earn money, and solve other issues related to resources and people? That’s why smart people know that the same knowledge can be more important than money. Money was received and spent, and knowledge is a constant value, with their help the same money can be regularly extracted. And thinking is an even more important value. But for those who have not grown up to such an understanding, all this does not matter. Therefore, people value what they are able to appreciate, what corresponds to their level of understanding. Material values are the easiest to understand, so they appreciate them. I mean mercantile people.

Do you understand now what the commercialism of a person means, in our case we are talking about the commercialism of a woman? About its relative underdevelopment. It is stuck in the period when a person can only appreciate material values, because he does not understand anything else. And if a woman is already an adult, but apart from material benefits, she is not interested in anything, then this one has not fully developed. She either slowed down her development altogether, as happens with infantile children, or she was simply taught to value only material goods, which in general also indicates her inferior development. We can say that commercialism in its primitive form is immaturity, infantilism. Accordingly, in the behavior of such a woman there will be other features of immaturity. She will be capricious, greedy, aggressive when something goes wrong, reckless, greedy for any pathos, irresponsible and unreliable. This can easily betray, for any reason. And if it happens that a man with whom she got together only for the sake of his money, property, status, support and help in her face, he will not see. A mercantile woman is just a big girl. People are not valuable to her, she just uses them.

But women’s commercialism can be quite mature, one might say, appropriate. This is when she knows how to appreciate not only material things, but also non-material ones, and yet, shows prudence in the matter of relationships with men, she prefers material goods to the detriment of other values. She does this on purpose, because it is a more appropriate choice for her in her situation. Here, first of all, you need to understand that a woman, according to the idea of nature, is a mother. And mothers need to raise their children. That’s what her brain is set up to do. And this requires resources. And so the female brain should be tuned in to attract these resources to itself. How? Through the attraction of a man to himself. The man in such cases considers as a source of resources. Even if not only them, but also including them or them in the first place. But the point is not even in need, but in the fact that there are no other qualities in men surrounding a woman in vain.

It is good when there is a man who you can rely on first of all, as a person-reliable, loyal, responsible, serious. No matter how much he earns, no matter what he has, a woman can be sure in him that he will try for her, for the family, for the children when they appear. And if there is no such thing? if there are only womanizers and infantilepeople around? So you have to choose from what you have. And in this case, why not give preference to the person who at least knows how to earn money well. I repeat, a woman is first of all a mother, not a breadwinner, she should take care of children, at least according to the idea of the same nature, and for them she should extract resources through her male partner. To do this, she must be able to influence him in the right way, mainly through emotions, because it is emotions that encourage us to act. Which it does. She looks mercantile in such cases, in fact, exploiting the man, but this is only because he himself has nothing more to offer her.

A woman consciously begins to see a man only as a breadwinner, when he is no longer capable of anything. This is how mature commercialism manifests itself. Or even when the woman herself does not believe that she can meet and be interested in a man who is not only able to bring money to the house, but can also be a reliable, honest, decent partner who will never deceive, betray, or throw. If she believes that with such a person she is not destined to be, well, then let her man at least be a good breadwinner. A smart mature woman knows how to appreciate a man’s qualities, but she is not always able to get a man who has these necessary valuable qualities. Therefore, she looks at those who are in her life and chooses the most useful for her. Thus, people can value not only what they understand, but also what they can and are forced to value, given their situation. It’s like a man in solitary confinement in a prison. For him, even a small spider can become a great friend, which he will appreciate very, very much simply because there is no one else who can brighten up his loneliness.

So a woman drips on a man’s brain and puts pressure on him constantly, urging him to supply her with more and more resources, when he understands that this is the only way to get something from him.

Of course, the manifestation of this trait of a woman’s character comes not only from nature or from the situation in which she finds herself, but also from the upbringing, the worldview of a woman, which she has formed by the people around her. A woman may be quite developed, but at the same time she will consider that material values are more expensive than anything else in this world, because she has not seen anything else, has not tried, so to speak, anything else. I have heard and read about other values, but I have not seen them in person and have not experienced joy from them. She knows that a man is valuable not only for what he has, not only for his money and possessions, but also for himself, as a person, as a person. She understands that material values are not the only thing that is important in life, there are other valuable things. But, I repeat, she saw only such a relationship between a man and a woman, in which a woman appreciated a man only for his security and for nothing else. And it’s hard not to depend on such examples. We all view life exactly as most people around us do. Our behavior model is in many ways a copy of the behavior model of the people around us. Therefore, if you see a certain life around you for a long time from childhood, then you will live approximately the same or exactly the same.

And people are specially instilled with a consumer lifestyle, teaching them to appreciate luxury, so that they always strive for an expensive life. And it’s not just about advertising that programs people, especially women. Do you know, for example, that now in school children almost force each other to have only expensive, branded things? If you buy non-branded clothing or any other accessories, you will be ridiculed, humiliated, insulted. This, of course, has always been the case, children, what can I say, have a primitive view of life. Just give them a reason to attack someone. They can peck at everything and for poverty, and for other distinctive moments that they consider shortcomings. But now especially children can be instilled with respect to expensive and dislike for inexpensive things. There are children whose parents work for various marketing companies and they constantly dress up their children in expensive clothes that these companies give them for rent. These kids dressed in expensive clothes come to school and start showing off, telling other children that this is the way to dress, belittling those who look poorer. They then run to their parents and ask them to buy them new things. And they do not care about the capabilities of their parents, children do not know how to count money at all. And such advertising kids then put on new clothes again, but they are still given them for rent. The same thing happens in universities. I know people who work in this kind of job and advertise things on purpose, either at universities themselves or through children who go to school. And then what will a little girl who is terrified that she will be ridiculed if she does not dress expensively think? She will think that money is everything! It is on them that a person’s happiness depends. We are all food for the system and we are taught to live in a way that is beneficial to the system. They will teach women to ride men like this, and they will be happy to exploit them mercilessly. And it is important for the system that a person plows for it without sparing himself, because this is what it lives on.

There is also a positive side to women’s commercialism, which is useful not only for themselves, but also for their men. Mercantile women are able to push their men to great success. By creating stressful situations for them or making them believe that if they want to be with them, they must be successful, mercantile women force men to move and achieve something. With such women, a man will not lie down on the couch and grow a belly, they simply will not allow him to do it. They will force him to work, move up the career ladder, develop a business, and achieve great success in other matters, depending on what their man is doing. And in this way, in certain cases, such women help their men to become someone, to achieve something in life, to succeed in something. On the other hand, if you go too far in this business, then a man simply cannot withstand the constant pressure from a woman who will drive him forward, up and away from her.

It also happens that having achieved something, a man refuses a woman who constantly drove him forward and finds someone simpler to live in peace, without any nerves. He finds a woman who needs him, not his achievements. So, after all, in most cases, the female commercialism of men is more repulsive, even if the woman is outwardly very attractive. Not everyone has the money to buy beauties. Therefore, whatever motivates a mercantile woman, it is better not to overdo this approach to life and to men. Otherwise, there will simply be no one in her life. At least no one serious. Well, men should not spoil women. If they buy their beauty, I will donkey on them, not sparing myself, then the demands of women will only increase. And the female appetite, it has no end, no edge.

A real woman

In this chapter, we will talk about the real women that I consider to be such, based on my professional and life experience. What makes a woman real? I am sure that there are many opinions on this issue. I’ve heard different versions. However, based on the feelings that many men who have lived with different women have told me about, as well as on my own experience, I have chosen one of the most important criteria that allows me to call this or that woman real. Do you think we are talking about femininity, sexuality, emotionality, female weakness, economy, kindness, and other such well-known things? No, these are all derivatives of another, more important quality of a woman. Namely, respect. It is about the respect that a woman shows to a man as a person, as a person, as someone who can be trusted, who can be trusted, who should be valued only for the fact that he does nothing wrong to a woman and takes care of her to the best of his abilities and capabilities.

That is, when the measure of a woman’s attitude to a man is her relationship with a normal man — not with a prince, before whom she can curry favor for the sake of selfish interests, and not with an outright degenerate, egoist, mother’s son, who clearly does not deserve respect for himself, but with a man who appreciates her, then her disrespect for such a person is this indicates some of her shortcomings, because of which it is difficult to call her a real woman. I’m not saying this as a reproach to any women right now, it’s just my vision of this is